Laura Ramadei is a certified sexologist, relationship coach, and intimacy practitioner who helps others embrace their most authentic selves. She also co-hosts “Girls on Porn” with Rachel Napoleon. Together, the hosts aim to help people find porn they can feel good about.

This week on “This Is TV Now,” we talk to Ramadei about her relationship to podcasting, her development as an educator, and the current state of the Manosphere through the lens of sex. Afterward, we extended the conversation and were treated to a really good ghost story.

Who is the most underrated person in your industry right now?

Laura Ramadei: Are we talking porn or are we talking intimacy and relationships? I can’t help but think of porn performers because that’s who I want a platform. There’s creator, filmmaker, and performer Vex Ashley, who hosts a site [called] Four Chambers. In her words, it’s like “art-school-bullshit porn” — really incredible production value while still being very indie and like, really hot sex. I love For Chambers, and I just stumbled across a performer who goes by @_king_krueger or Kyron Krueger, and he’s like a very kinky, switchy performer, very, like, conventionally hot. So, if you’re into masculine men being dominated, that’s for you; he’s for you. That can be hard to find. 

Good Tape: And he’s underrated, too?

LR: I think so, because we only just stumbled onto him pretty recently. I feel like he’s probably doing pretty well. I think he has a decent following. His OnlyFans is clearly run by an agency, which speaks to some stature, but we only just found out about him, so I’m like, “This guy should be a star,” you know?

What’s your go-to karaoke song?

LR: “Killing Me Softly [With His Song].” Or, recently, I discovered a song called “Be My Baby.” It’s just like a classic. I just sang it. I needed to come up with a song with “baby” in it for a friend’s baby shower karaoke. [Starts singing “Be My Little Baby” by the Ronettes.]

GT: Oh my god, you have a good voice. That’s a great song.

How would your haters describe you?

LR: Slut. [Laughs]. Whore. Idiot. Slut. Butterface. I don’t know, I just went for it.

What makes you optimistic about the future?

LR: Everything we talked about on the show. I think a lot of men are hurting, and people are seeing that there’s a more constructive way to deconstruct the Manosphere, and that is through offering support and education to those guys.

Do you believe in ghosts?

LR: I think I might have one in my apartment. Like a prank-y one, like a sort of silly one. Like “This just fell off the wall and what are you going to do about it?”

GT: You have a potential millennial ghost in there. A millennial ghost would be a prankster. Like, “I’m not gonna spook you. I’m just going to fuck with you.”

LR: I’ve had a few things happen to my apartment, too. This is all going to sound stupid, but, like, two pots got stuck together in a very mysterious way and were rendered useless. And I’ve had multiple things fall off the walls in the night. It is kind of an older apartment with like, plaster, so there’s definitely an explanation. Also, my phone was off and closed, and I was asleep, and at three in the morning, it turned on and started playing a Marco-Polo message. So I woke up in the middle of the night to my partner speaking to me through this Marco-Polo message, but like, the phone was off. Like, how could that possibly happen?

And then most recently, a bunch of my girlfriends were over, and when they all left, there was what looked like an engagement ring on the sink in my bathroom. I run out to the driveway, and I’m calling to them, like, “Who left the ring?” All of them swear they weren’t wearing it when they came, and I don’t think these are friends who would prank me for any reason. One of them recognized it and said, “Oh, it kind of looks like my gas station ring.” She [travels] a lot, and gas stations are like a classic place where you might be vulnerable as a woman. So, she has a ring she wears [to make it appear that she’s married] specifically in gas stations when she’s alone. And she was like, “That looks like my gas station ring, but I haven’t seen it since November.” But it was suddenly on the sink. So, theoretically, she lost it at my house [earlier in the year], then it appeared on the corner of the sink, and all of my friends swear they did not put it there. I was like, “Was someone high?” Not really. We do smoke weed, but not so much that we would forget that we saw a ring on the floor, you know what I mean?

GT: That is a really good ghost story. 

LR: And honestly, I don’t feel threatened by ghosts. I’ve thought about getting a medium. It’s kind of fun. There have been times when something’s fallen off the wall, and I’ve been like, “Can you not, bro?” and then I’ve gone back to sleep.